11 First Date Tips That Are Actually Useful - Don't Turn Her Off + Lock Down the Second Date

Today we're showing you 11 First Date Tips That Are Actually Useful. So you’ve asked a gorgeous girl out, and you want your first date together to go well. I get it...It can be stressful, But that's why knowing these tips which tell you exactly what women do and don't want on a first date is important.

So here are 11 First Date Tips for Men

1. Be Normal

‘Be normal’ might sound vague, but all it means is show her a normal experience, And not one that’s weird or unusual. Don’t take her to an overly violent, gory or graphic movie, don’t show her at dinner how you can burp the alphabet, and don’t bring a magic set with you to the date and surprise her with an illusion. Instead, be normal: Be considerate, polite, and down-to-earth, And take her somewhere normal: fun, casual, and light hearted.

2. Show up on time

This tip shouldn’t surprise to you, as it’s generally polite to show up on time, But… why is it so important on a first date? Because being late shows her one of two things, Either you’re too lazy and/or irresponsible to plan your day to be on time, Or you don’t value her time enough to make your date a priority. Plus, waiting for you is just annoying, And that alone is the last impression you want to make on a first date, right?

3. Be Proud Enough of Your Appearance to Dress Well 

You don’t have to spend all day getting ready for your date, But that doesn’t mean that you should only spend a few seconds getting ready. She looks her best to show you that you’re worth the effort, So why wouldn’t you do the same for her? Put on a nice, clean shirt, groom your beard and hair, and, please, shower. Show her that you care enough about her to put in the effort to look your best.

4. Have a Well-Designed Date

This might be the most important step to first date success, and luckily with the right formula, planning a fun, laid-back date is easy. What’s the right formula? Simple: A meal + an activity. Take her to a good meal, somewhere nice, but not overly fancy, then to an activity, like mini golf, ice skating, or an arcade. This combination gives you a fun, easy way to get to know her, Without the pressure of a formal dinner.

5. Don’t Let Her Know the Whole Plan

Have a plan for the date, but don’t let her know exactly what that plan is. Women love surprises, especially on a first date. It shows that you’re spontaneous, fun, and will always show her a good time. Now, it’s important to let her know some information about the date, Like if she should dress up, bring something warm, or avoid high heels, But don’t tell her everything. She’ll love the excitement and surprise of the unknown.

6. Compliment Her

Every woman loves thoughtful and appropriate compliments. But what do we mean by ‘thoughtful’ and ‘appropriate’ compliments? Thoughtful compliments are specific to her, not general or vague. And appropriate compliments are neither too serious, nor too sexual. Guys… just like you want to know what women are thinking, women want to know what men are thinking… especially if it’s something nice. So compliment her, it will help make that second date all the more likely.

7. Don’t Just Talk About Yourself

You won’t make her like you by overloading her with information about yourself. Not only will that push her away, but it’s also a huge turn off to women. So instead, ask her thoughtful questions about her family, past, interests, and goals. Go into the date with the goal of getting to know her as much as possible. You’ll notice that showing that much interest in her makes her like you more, And even makes her want to get to know you better.

8. Think about Your First Date Questions and Conversation Starters

Both men and women fear too much silence on the first date, So plan out a few conversation starters that you can ask her like: ‘If you had an entire day off work to do whatever you wanted, what would you do?’ ‘Where in the world do you want to travel most?’

Or ‘How Would You Spend A Billion Dollars?’ Even if you don’t use these, it’s nice to know that you have them if needed.

9. Know If You Should Kiss Her

Most girls expect a kiss on the first date, But if you think about it, you’re much more memorable if you don’t kiss her then. You’ll be different from overeager guys who’ve kissed her right away in the past, And she’ll even be more excited to kiss on the second date. So consider waiting to kiss for the first time, And make her really want it by the time it comes on your second date.

10. Land a Second Date

You might have heard the ‘rule’ to wait 3 days before calling a girl after a date, But that rule is absolutely ridiculous, and the reason is simple: She doesn’t want to wait around for three whole days to hear that you like her enough to go out again. So call her the next day, and schedule your second date.

11. Keep in Touch

After a great first date, it’s important to keep in touch with her. So call/text every few days, to let her know you’re still interested. Why should you do that? If you don’t, contrary to what a lot of guys think, It will not make her like you more, it will only make her confused/angry. So keep the good impression from your first date, and keep in contact with your girl.

There’s our 11 first date tips. Use them to nail your first date, and even land a second!

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